1. Respect and embrace your vulnerability. Allow yourself to grieve. You are human.

2. Accept reality. What is, is.

3. For disturbing feelings:

Why do I feel this way?
What am I thinking or doing to feel this way?
What am I afraid of?
Why am I angry?
Were my expectations realistic?
What hurts?
What have I lost?
What is out of my control?
What is within my control?
How can I make the most of what is within my control?
What are my most constructive options?
What is the worst thing that can happen?
What is the best thing I can do if this occurs?
What is my best course of action, under these circumstances?

4. Optimize your focus:

What's supremely important to me?
What do I want above all else?
What are my greatest talents and abilities?
How can I make the best use of them?
How can I be my best at this time?
What are the wisest actions I can take today?
What are the most productive actions I can take?
What's the most constructive use of my time right now?

6. Ask:

What's best for me?
What's best for you?
What's best for us?