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Be Your Best Quotes

Wednesday, February 8th, 2012

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“Make the choice to be your highest and best self, regardless of the circumstances.”
Rosalene Glickman, Ph.D., Creator and author of Optimal Thinking

“Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson

“The best preparation for tomorrow is doing your best today.”
H. Jackson Brown, Jr

“Getting in touch with your true self must be your first priority.” 
Tom Hopkins

Every situation is an opportunity to be your best.”  
Rosalene Glickman, Ph.D., Creator and author of Optimal Thinking

“Do the best job and you’ll never have any competition.”
Christopher Casey

“We have to do the best we can. This is our sacred human responsibility.”
Albert Einstein

“Don’t settle for average. Bring your best to the moment. Then, whether it fails or succeeds, at least you know you gave all you had. We need to live the best that’s in us.”
Angela Bassett

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“When we do the best that we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another.”
Helen Keller

“We think about all of our tomorrows, but we don’t know how many they are, so let’s start making the most of our Todays!”
Ivana Trump

“Make the most of yourself, for that is all there is of you.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Living your best life is your most important journey in life.”
Oprah Winfrey

“As simple as it sounds, we all must try to be the best person we can; by making the best choices, by making the most of the talents we’ve been given.”
Mary Lou Retton

“Your ultimate goal in life is to become your best self.  Your immediate goal is to get on the path that will lead you there.”
David Viscott, M.D.

“Give the world the best you have and you may get hurt. Give the world your best anyway.”
Mother Theresa

“When you have choices, choose the best. When you have no choice, do your best.”
Rosalene Glickman, Ph.D., Creator and author of Optimal Thinking

“I do the very best I know how, the very best I can and I mean to keep doing so until the end.”
Abraham Lincoln

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The Politics of Envy

Wednesday, January 25th, 2012

Mitt Romney

Mitt Romney

Are you envious of millionaires, billionaires, or those who have what you want?  Does envy help you achieve what you want?  Envy results from feeling deprived—not necessarily because you don’t have enough, but because someone else has more. Being around people who are happy, healthy, or wealthy when you are in pain, stricken with a debilitating illness, or deprived of an income can easily stir feelings of envy. Feeling resentful that you don’t have what someone else has distracts you from your dissatisfaction with yourself and from concentrating on creating what you want. To best resolve your feelings of envy, you can ask:

Why am I distracting myself from optimizing my life?
Why am I afraid to assume responsibility for optimizing my life?
What am I thinking or doing to create dissatisfaction with myself?
Which beliefs are inhibiting my Optimal well-being?
What am I afraid of?
What is within my control?
What is most important to me?
What are the best actions I can take to create what is most important to me?
What are the best actions I can take to feel good about myself?
What is the best thing I can do to minimize my anxiety?
How can I take the best possible care of myself?

Warren Buffet

Warren Buffet

When Henry was growing up, his mother criticized his every move and often compared him to people who were more accomplished. Nothing Henry did was ever good enough. As an adult, Henry was miserable. He felt defective and was afraid of making life changing decisions. When Henry was twenty-five years old, his father passed away, so he took over the family business. Henry hated the business but didn’t have the courage to try anything else. He constantly measured himself against the successful people he knew and was clearly envious of their accomplishments. Henry was using envy to distract himself from taking responsibility for healing his pain and optimizing his life. Here is a portion of my consultation with Henry.

HENRY:  I hate myself. I don’t have what it takes to make it. Look at all my school friends. They have a good life. My life is a mess.
ROSALENE:  Henry, are you willing to focus your attention on what is within your control?
HENRY:  Yes.
ROSALENE:  What are you thinking or doing that is inhibiting you from feeling good about yourself and achieving what you want?
HENRY:  Good question. I focus on what others have, instead of how I can create it for myself.
ROSALENE:  Why are you distracting yourself from making the most of your life?
HENRY:  Good question again. I’m afraid I don’t have the skills or courage to make it in life.
ROSALENE:  Henry, I understand how scary this must feel for you. Can you acquire the skills you need?
HENRY:  Yes
ROSALENE:  So you need courage. Courage means that you feel the fear and take action regardless, one step at a time. You don’t allow fear to paralyze you. Are you willing to do that?
HENRY: Yes. I am ashamed of being so afraid of life. It’s horrible to feel like a coward.
ROSALENE:  Will this make you feel good about yourself? Is this in your best interest?
HENRY: I will give it a try. It will definitely make me feel better about myself.
ROSALENE:  What is the best strategy you can implement to create what is most important to you?

Henry reviewed his goals, figured out his priorities, took one step at a time, and in due time, entered a field that ignited his passion. On purpose, he is no longer consumed with envy.

* Excerpted from Optimize Yourself with Optimal Thinking Audio Download.

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How to Resolve Conflict Optimally

Monday, January 23rd, 2012

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Do you avoid conflict because you fear the unpleasantness involved in facing it? Sometimes the presence of conflict is destructive and impedes progress; at other times, it doesn’t. When there is complete absence of conflict, often the need for change is denied, hidden resentments accumulate, problems aren’t dealt with, and creativity is stifled. All relationships have areas of conflict.

Do you wonder about your conflict resolution skills? When you acknowledge and resolve conflict optimally, you minimize differences and optimize mutual understanding. You make the most constructive decisions and reduce drama and crises in your life. To resolve any conflict, willingness by those involved is essential.

The objective of the two-way Optimal conflict resolution process is to find the best solution for all concerned. When you resolve conflicts with optimal communication, the best interests of all are considered and the best solution negotiated. In the real world, however, sometimes negotiations do not result in agreement. Prior to negotiation, it is in your best interest to determine your Optimal contingency plan in case you are unable to reach agreement. This will maximize your leverage.

When discussions begin, only those directly involved in the conflict should partake in its resolution. In these conflict resolution discussions, it is supremely important that respect for others’ self-esteem is always displayed. Concentrate fully on the issue, listen reflectively, and organize the best follow-up date.

7 Steps to Handle Conflict Resolution Optimally

The following seven-step formula can be used whenever you seek the best solution to your problems and conflicts.

Step 1. Clearly define the conflict.
This should take no more than 20 percent of your time.

Step 2. Define the main purpose of the solution.
Why do I need the solution? Why does the other party need the solution?

Step 3. Decide on all the information needed.
Identify the cause of the conflict, the major needs, interests, concerns, and common ground of all involved. You may need to gather additional information.

Step 4. Collaborate to generate possible options.
Brainstorm. Do not judge solutions at this stage.

Step 5. Evaluate the options in light of the information collected.
Examine the fairness and practicality of each option. Consider the advantages and disadvantages and evaluate the consequences for all concerned.

Step 6. Negotiate. Decide upon, verify, and implement the best solution.
What can they give me? What can we/I give them? What is easiest for me to give? What is most valuable for them? Is it in my best interest to reveal my Optimal contingency plan? Ensure clear agreement. For the tasks involved, ask What?, Who?, Where?, Why?, How?, When’s the best time? Establish the best possible checking procedure.

Step 7. Choose the best follow-up date.
Evaluate the effectiveness of the solution in light of additional experience and relevant information.


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Achieve New Year’s Resolutions and Overcome Instant Gratification

Friday, December 30th, 2011

Do you wonder why people don’t achieve their new year’s resolutions?  Many people disappoint themselves year after year when they fail to accomplish their new year’s resolutions. When we believe that we don’t deserve the best in life or that we can’t have the best in life, we form habits that don’t support our best interests.  We indulge in instant gratification, set unrealistic goals, fail to plan, create plans that have a low probability of success, and make other choices that sabotage our best intentions.

New Year’s Resolutions Tips with Optimal Thinking

1. Recognize that all you have and all you’ll ever have is the everpresent moment. Do you want to squander it, be, use it, or make the most of it?

2. Make the choice to be your highest and best self, regardless of the circumstances. Recognize that every situation — even a disaster — provides an opportunity to be your best.  Get to know your best self intimately! Place your best self in charge of your life by answering questions like:

What would my best self do in this situation?
How would my best self deal with this situation?

3. Accept what is out of your control. When you dwell on what is out of your control, you squander your energy and your life.

4.  Optimize what is within your control by employing the language of your highest and best self: Optimal Thinking. Make the best of the everpresent moment and this year by asking questions like:

What is supremely important to me this year?
What is my most important goal this year?
What is in my/your/our best interests?
What is supremely important to me right now?
What is the best thing I can do under the circumstances?
What’s the best use of my time right now?

5. Examine the past year by yourself, with a trusted friend, or with an Optimal Thinking life coach by answering questions like:

What worked?
What didn’t work?
Why didn’t I achieve what I wanted?
Were my expectations realistic?
Can I still achieve what I want?
How can my successes/disappointments best serve me?
What can I learn from them so that I can maximize this year?

6. Make decisions when your heart and mind are in agreement. Choose the best then put your issues to rest. Use the three-step strategy for personal optimization:

i) Consciously choose Optimal Thinking
ii) Monitor yourself. You can use questions like “Am I thinking optimally or suboptimally?
iii) Eliminate your self-limiting core beliefs.

When you overcome your self-limiting core beliefs, you will have the foundation to travel on your best track and create your best life.

7. Create your SUPREME Plan. Make sure the prize is worth the price and serves your best interests, then put your best self in charge as you take action. Take achievable steps, and reward yourself each time you reach predetermined milestones.

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How I Became Australia’s Most Successful Woman

Friday, December 23rd, 2011

Although I was often the top student in high school math classes and solved science problems effortlessly, I had no desire to express these natural abilities in a career. Dancing was my passion. I both lost and found myself moving my body to the rhythm of my soul. My parents didn’t believe I could earn a living as a dancer, and I had doubts too, so my passion was relegated to a social activity. During my final year of high school, my father suggested that I apply for entrance into Pharmacy College. I followed his advice because I couldn’t think of another alternative. From the start, however, I was more interested in playing poker and ping-pong than attending classes. At the end of each school year, I worked in a pharmacy, a curriculum requirement. I watched the clock continually and prayed for the end of each day.

It didn’t feel right and I knew I had to do something about it.

After evaluating my options and reflecting on questions that connected me to my purpose, I decided to pursue teaching. I had developed a reverence for knowledge, and it felt right. What’s more, I had often dreamed of traveling the world and meeting people from different cultures. I could now fulfill this dream during the long semester breaks. I have never looked back —and my career has never felt like work! I taught junior high school science, then high school physics and chemistry, and ultimately chaired the high school science department.

I loved challenging my students with mischievous, zany problems to solve and, they were willing participants.

They entered my classroom grinning, wondering what each lesson would bring. Gratefully, I achieved my purpose at that time: to make learning synonymous with fun. My teaching career evolved to encompass a love of languages, and my deepest professional commitment, the tuition of Optimal Thinking, the basis of personal and professional optimization.

Since 1980, I have presented seminars in corporations and educational organizations and to individuals throughout the world. Initially, I adopted the “think positive” principle, but quickly recognized that this paradigm had serious shortcomings. I recall the following message from a well-known motivation expert: “Positive thinkers are the winners in this world. Negative thinkers are the losers. You wouldn’t enter someone’s home and dump a load of trash in his or her living room. Your behavior is equally offensive when you dump your emotional garbage on others. Fake it until you make it!” I was uncomfortable with this duplicity and lack of compassion. Although my words had not always matched my actions, I was unwilling to consciously choose hypocrisy or to sacrifice my soul to a bravado image. I responded by isolating myself from others when I felt sad or uncomfortable, because I felt guilty imposing my negative thoughts and feelings on them. I also became the quintessential optimist. I disregarded warning signals and held unrealistic expectations of people and of life.

For a brief period, I disappointed and betrayed myself with wishful thinking. This was a wonderful gift—it led me to Optimal Thinking.

In the late 1980′s, I  began to challenge the deficiencies of positive thinking and formulated Optimal Thinking. Soon the media was at my doorstep. One article described me as “Australia’s most successful woman in her field.” One day, however, a journalist referred to me as “ Australia’s most successful woman.” What a leap! Then came an interview with a veteran journalist who asked: “What makes you Australia’s most successful woman?” Embarrassed, I responded: “Who am I to say who is more successful? Is mom at home doing her best to raise decent children any less successful than the corporate executive who optimizes profits?” “With thinking like that, you have to be Australia’s most successful woman!” he replied. I appeared on hundreds of shows answering questions about Optimal Thinking, and even hosted my own radio and television programs. It was fun!

When an invitation to write a book arrived unexpectedly, I agreed. For sixteen years I researched and explored this universal, peak form of thinking and the core beliefs that prevent us from thinking optimally. Along the way I discovered the five greatest shortcomings of positive thinking. What a joy! Optimal Thinking has now been translated into 16 languages.

Every time I deliver an Optimal Thinking seminar, I connect my best self with the participants. My executive coaching and life-coaching practices allow me the privilege of contributing Optimal Thinking in another format. I interact with all kinds of wonderful people, including students, executives and CEOs of large corporations, small-business owners, working moms, educators, and health professionals. When they gain the tools to make the most of their lives, they often say: “I feel like flying out of here!” Needless to say, I love my career.

I work with a joyful heart and am blessed with endless satisfaction.

That’s because I have the privilege of helping you to place your best self in charge of your life!

All my best,

Rosalene Glickman, Ph.D.

Best-selling author of Optimal Thinking