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Ready to overcome envy? Are you envious of millionaires, billionaires, or those who have what you want? Does envy help you achieve what you want? Envy results from feeling deprived—not necessarily because you don’t have enough, but because someone else has more. Being around people who are happy, healthy, or wealthy when you are in pain, stricken with a debilitating illness, or deprived of an income can easily stir feelings of envy. Feeling resentful that you don’t have what someone else has distracts you from your dissatisfaction with yourself and from concentrating on creating what you want. To best resolve your feelings of envy, you can ask:
When Henry was growing up, his mother criticized his every move and often compared him to people who were more accomplished. Nothing Henry did was ever good enough. As an adult, Henry was miserable. He felt defective and was afraid of making life changing decisions. When Henry was twenty-five years old, his father passed away, so he took over the family business. Henry hated the business but didn’t have the courage to try anything else. He constantly measured himself against the successful people he knew and was clearly envious of their accomplishments. Henry was using envy to distract himself from taking responsibility for healing his pain and optimizing his life. Here is a portion of my consultation with Henry.
HENRY: I hate myself. I don’t have what it takes to make it. Look at all my school friends. They have a good life. My life is a mess.
ROSALENE: Henry, are you willing to focus your attention on what is within your control?
ROSALENE: What are you thinking or doing that is inhibiting you from feeling good about yourself and achieving what you want?
HENRY: Good question. I focus on what others have, instead of how I can create it for myself.
ROSALENE: Why are you distracting yourself from making the most of your life?
HENRY: Good question again. I’m afraid I don’t have the skills or courage to make it in life.
ROSALENE: Henry, I understand how scary this must feel for you. Can you acquire the skills you need?
ROSALENE: So you need courage. Courage means that you feel the fear and take action regardless, one step at a time. You don’t allow fear to paralyze you. Are you willing to do that?
HENRY: Yes. I am ashamed of being so afraid of life. It’s horrible to feel like a coward.
ROSALENE: Will this make you feel good about yourself? Is this in your best interest?
HENRY: I will give it a try. It will definitely make me feel better about myself.
ROSALENE: What is the best strategy you can implement to create what is most important to you?
Henry reviewed his goals, figured out his priorities, took one step at a time, and in due time, entered a field that ignited his passion. On purpose, he is no longer consumed with envy.
* Overcome Envy excerpted from 100-Day Optimal Thinking Audio Download.